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Lately, I have been experimenting with looking at my Narcissistic clients through a new lens: Are they “pro-social” or are they “anti-social?
” I am making this distinction based on three factors: My Narcissistic clients who I am terming “Pro-Social” are eager to help other people. These are the people who often lend their neighbors a helping hand getting their stuck garage door open or, if they are wealthy, they donate the money to build a new wing for the local pediatric hospital.
As a young person, I read stories about King Arthur and the Knights of the Round Table.
King Arthur’s Knights swore an oath to go out and do good deeds and protect the weak and innocent.
In the Arthurian legends, these scary and egotistical Knights who roamed the countryside and only fought for their personal gain were often depicted in all-black armor—I have come to think of them as “Black Knights” for short.
Instead of protecting the innocent, they destroyed and dominated them.I was a bit naive and assumed that everyone who came for psychotherapy wanted help and had a desire to solve their problems.I soon found that there was a subgroup of Narcissistic clients who wanted to focus on my flaws, not their own.NOTE: In this article I am using the term “Narcissist” as shorthand for people who have made a Narcissistic adaptation to a childhood situation that now in adulthood qualifies for a diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.I will sometimes use the word “adaptation” instead of “disorder” to emphasize that narcissistic defenses were the child’s creative adjustment to this earlier situation.