So they resort to “hanging out”, it is easier and has less pressure.
One of the dangers of this attitude is that many young men and women take this into their college years. Oaks said: “Knowledgeable observers report that dating has nearly disappeared from college campuses and among young adults generally.
It is what they think about and what to know more about! These are the points that the youth must battle – so they raise their standards, like Captain Moroni did.
The funny thing about this, is that in my experience, many youth don’t date much anymore. Whenever we talked about it, their eyes lit up and I had their total attention and I consistently felt a great need to bring this back into the lives of our youth. Formerly, a STANDARD was a military object (like a flag or an ensign) carried atop a pole. If a youth chooses not to raise that standard, they run the risk of defeat.
It is worth a good discussion with them, and here are some questions that can help.
I would ask the youth these questions and see how they would answer these on their own, and then I would be prepared with counsel, quotes and scriptures to teach them further.
It is good for young men and young women to learn to know and to appreciate one another. (For the Strength of Youth, Dating) I used to pull out my driver’s license and ask the youth why they think we have to wait until we are 16 to drive. What are some of the dangers and pressures on the road? One common excuse is that some feel that they are more mature than others, so they can begin earlier than 16. Blessed be the youth who helps change this dangerous belief and helps others recognize and feel value as they live the standards.
It is good for you to go to games and dances and picnics, to do all of the young things. “How many of you wish you could drive before you are (were) 16? ” And then we would talk about the emotional maturity that is necessary to even begin to handle a vehicle, laws and other cars – and the consequences that could be (to yourself and others) if you are not ready. There are a lot of pressures involved – and those that love the youth recognize that they can begin to handle them at 16, but there are still a lot of standards involved to help them be able to be strong through them – just like there are laws accompanied with driving. May we never fall for the world’s view of worth as we are clinging to God’s commandments and promised blessings.
This can be a pretty sensitive topic with certain youth who would love to date, but seem to never be asked. and rolling their eyes at me – which I love because it means they needed to hear it. Steady dating is courtship, and surely the beginning of courtship ought to be delayed until you have emerged from your teens.” (For the Strength of Youth, Dating) There will be many youth who live and love this standard, and many who ignore it.
I taught at three different high school seminaries in Salt Lake and I noticed that different schools had different dating cultures; but by in large “dates” were for school dances, and not regular weekend activities. In this article are some questions that can help spur conversation about the standards in the For the Strength of Youth pamphlet, which I believe will help encourage proper dating. Dating is one of the standards that the youth must raise.
So, how well do they know, and follow, these standards?
The question isn’t whether they are forming relationships, they are.
The question is what are their standards around doing so?