Dating wiht a kid
You finally meet someone you really, really like and want to introduce him to your kids. It's the respectful thing to do if you have a good relationship with him. Here are a few ground rules for introducing a new love to your children. A group setting allows children to feel non-threatened. Go Slowly: Remember, you might be in love, but your children need time to get used to a new situation. I had to take him aside and say, “I am so glad you like him!
Before you even think about introducing your children to your new boyfriend, you need to have been dating for at least six months. It takes at least six months to begin to really know a person. Group Setting: Have the first five meetings in a group setting.
Don't Be Their Friend Just as with any old parent-child relationship, it's a bad idea to try to be "friends" with your significant other's child.
It's easy to want to impress them and be that cool, new person in their life, but they need the structure, seriousness, and guidance that only adults can provide. (Even when it totally doesn't feel like it.) Lay the Smack Down Early My boyfriend was a supreme joker, so it came naturally that his child was, too. I was afraid of p*ssing off my boyfriend, but he was fine with it. The boy was a little pins-and-needles with me for a few hours afterward, but he soon got over it and life went back to normal. Don't try this move too soon, but don't wait too long, either. It's one thing to have your boyfriend pee with the door open, but it's another thing when you're sitting on the couch and realize you can hear his kid peeing down the hall.
So here is my advice about dating people with kids.
Take from it what you will: Wait Even though my boyfriend was eager to introduce me to his kiddo early on, we waited a long time before it actually happened.
I love my children too much to rush into anything with anyone. More from Gal Time.com: • 5 Tips for Dating a Guy with Kids • Why You Shouldn't Rule Out Single Parents • 5 Movies Guys Say They Love...You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix.It's not fair to the kids if you aren't going to stick around.(It's a small town, so we kind of knew each other, but not really.) I was extra, extra lucky because my boyfriend had a (mostly) good relationship with her.This is not always the case, but that's another blog post.