Normal dating progression
We are given a taste of the potential of the relationship, but unfortunately, it is a chemically induced taste and cannot and should not last forever.The enchantment stage will gradually evolve in the next stage -- the Power Struggle Stage.
But eventually, for virtually all couples, the enchantment phase ends, the drugs wear off and are no longer secreted, the negative traits emerge with a greater impact, wounds and protections from childhood start being activated and the relationship moves into the "Power Struggle".Since they do not know what to do when that happens, they move back into the Parallel Relationship.The good news for these couples is that in the latter years of their marriage, usually after the children are in college or remarried, there tends to be a period of rapprochement.While this is not a universal experience and while the intensity and precision of the this experience varies greatly, this is a very, very common and "normal" experience in intimate, committed relationships. One way is what happens to couples who sort of "do what comes naturally".The other way (and I'm afraid it is the Road Less Traveled) is what we hope will happen for couples who choose to try to understand what is happening in intimate, committed relationships and who choose to do the necessary "work" of the relationship. This is where almost fifty per cent of all married couples divorce.