Sample sex chat with girl in english
You: Hey – this feels great, and I’d like to keep on doing it if you would, but I just want to press pause for a sec to make sure we’re on the same page. Them: Yeah, I like this too, and if you want to have dry sex, I could be down with that, but that all by itself is great for me, too. Just keep me posted with any changes if you start to feel differently, and I’ll do the same. Alternate Conversation: You: Hey – this feels great, and I’d like to keep on doing it if you would, but I want to stop for a sec to make sure we’re on the same page. (keeps kissing) You: Whoah: it’s really important to me that I take a minute now, so I need you to do that, too. You: You know, if we can’t do things like just take a minute to check in and lay down some boundaries and ground rules – and that’s all I needed to do – while this felt really good, I don’t want to keep going with it. If you’re ready to talk about this another time, you can call me. I’ve been having the hardest time talking about what I like and what I don’t.
You: I’d like to keep making out, and I’m probably comfortable with some dry sex if you are, but I know I don’t want to go further than that this soon. You: You know what, let’s stop for a minute and talk.
I’m worked up right now, too, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea for me to go farther before I’m ready, or that it’s fair to suggest that I should do more than I’m comfortable with because you’re excited. Them: (stammers) You: I don’t mean to put you on the spot, it’s just that I’d rather talk about it together first than just make a move that I’m not sure you want or are ready for.
Plus, we haven’t even talked about this before, and I feel like there’s a lot to talk about. Let me calm down for a minute, and then what do you say we just cuddle up and talk about this – no pressure, just seems like it’d be a good idea to figure out where we both stand and what we need. Alternate Conversation: Them: Can we move this to the bedroom? You won’t hurt my feelings if you don’t feel the same way – I mean, I’d be bummed, but it’s okay -- or don’t feel that way yet.
Them: Well, I embarrass myself in front of you almost every day and you still like me.
And I’d never ditch you because you don’t want to do that: I care about you for way more reasons than this. Who knows, I might feel different later on, and if I do, I’ll let you know, okay? By the way, I’ve been meaning to tell you something, too. Them: This is hard for me, but…oh god, I just don’t know how to say this. Them: I’m not going to lie and say I don’t miss sex with you, I do, but I’m happy to do any or all of those things. I’m not going anywhere, after all, and I know you’d be understanding with me if I was in the same spot. You: It seriously is, but you know, I’m feeling a little better about it already, just because you’re being so great about this. The world isn’t ending, but it’s a pretty big deal. I know we haven’t really talked about what those things are before, so some of that is my fault, but I want to talk about them now. You: You’re really quiet, and I know that’s probably because your feelings are hurt: I never wanted to hurt your feelings, and I’ll understand if you’re upset for a while or I need to earn some trust back.
You're saying some pretty hurtful things to me, and I don't feel like you're being very considerate of my feelings. It’s just that lately I haven’t been in the mood for sex at all. And I know it does, which is why I’m trying to finally talk about it. It’s not about you being a jerk or being bad in bed.
We’re having sex together, so any problems I’m having like this are supposed to be things you care about, too. I wish I was, but I’ve just been so stressed out, these antidepressants are doing a serious number on me, and I also think I’m just feeling unresolved with where we’re at with other parts of our relationship lately. You: I just didn’t want you to feel bad, and I don’t know how to tell you when it’s happening. You: I’m sorry: I can understand you being so upset with me and feeling like that. It’s just that, for starters, I need you to put less pressure on me to orgasm.
I also want to be sure that we’re on the same page when it comes to stuff like birth control and safer sex before we actually need any of that stuff.
Them: That’d be great…but do we have to talk about all of that today?